Moving to a new country for Love

There were those that insisted it was hormones. I had clearly lost my mind moving to a new country with no friends, no job and only an investment into a house that I hoped I could rent out. Also, I was moving and leaving a relationship; for a new relationship, with a man from the new place. It was a risk, at least. If not dangerous.

My suggestion to anyone in this position: Take your time. Do not rush home and divorce your husband and sell, or store, all your stuff. Seems obvious now. My friends did give me this advice, but then they also said I should make up my mind quickly. And since I couldn’t stand the pain I was inflicting on a person I loved, and since I hated myself for it even as I reveled in feeling alive again; I jumped.

My other suggestion: Do not move to a country and try and start a business that you have had no experience with, at the same time. Not only will you be learning things that would be difficult at home, but you will likely be dealing with byzantine rules, and tax codes and immigration status problems for awhile, which may lead you to depend on your new love interest and not your usual smarts.

The third suggestion: Keep everything separate, keep everything separate, keep everything separate. Whatever you need to do, do it as if you had moved on your own to the new place. Learn how to do everything. Pay someone other than your boyfriend/girlfriend to help you understand the new systems that you are facing. Do not rely on your new partner, it will create a codependency that you would not want if you had met them in your own country.

On the other hand, if you are comfortable with change and loss, feel free to ignore my advice. As I did.

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